30 Jan 2020

Ok, so here I am totally out of my comfort zone and clueless as to how to link all the social media platform whats-a-names and thingamajigs, but trusting that this is the month where it all unfolds and my learnings take place. So often we hold ourselves back, as we fear the ‘great unknown’ and ‘what if’s’. I am a true culprit of this and the queen of procrastination, but today, knees wobbling and heart palpitating, I commit to posting my first post on Medium!

‘When we step out of ego it becomes so much easier’ - hell, I teach this stuff, but how come it feels so bloody uncomfortable now?! I know that when it becomes about what I can give, versus what I receive and ‘what I look like to others’ the focus shifts and the flow begins. So here’s to stepping into the flow, as I embark on my ‘eyes light up’ challenge for February! …how many eyes can I light up? What happened in this space? How did it make them feel? How did it make me feel? The invitation is for you to join me in this challenge too.

The inspiration for this challenge comes from a 2008 TED-talk, by conductor Benjamin Zander, on ‘The transformative power of classical music’. Here he explores awakening possibilities in others and says, ‘The conductor of an orchestra doesn’t make a sound, [instead]he depends for his power on his ability to make other people powerful’. How profound is this statement?! So often are we threatened and intimidated by others, when in fact if we orchestrate to make others more magnificent, we become even more magnificent too! And how do we know that we are on the right track?…the indicator of Benjamin’s success is that his players’ eyes light up!

Wow, what an accessible and tangible tool. It is so, so easy to read shining eyes, yet how difficult, or easy, will it be to implement? I suppose this is what I am about to discover.

The two questions that he focusses on are:

  1. How can I make my players’ eyes light up?
  2. Who am I being that my players’ eyes are not shining?

…and it is these questions that I hope to take into each of my engagements this coming month. Replacing his ‘players’ with my family, children, clients, friends, colleagues, and yes, even strangers.

As uncomfortable and out of my comfort zone this journey may be, I commit to sharing it with you weekly. Not only to attempt to make your ‘eyes light up’, but for the accountability that you provide for me, along with the fact that by committing to the social-media arena for a full 29 days I sincerely hope my whats-a-names and thingamajigs will become more Lindsy-friendly.

The meaning of success has been a concept that I have been exploring in depth throughout the years. Is it money, our achievements, the achievements of our children, our possessions? When do we finally ‘arrive’? When are we truly successful? Secretly, I feel that February may be quite revealing in this regard.

And as we let our own lights shine, we subconsciously give other people permission to do the same‘ - Marianne Williamson